Sunday, August 19, 2007

Families, Death and Stupidity



Death can bring out the best in a family or the worst. It can bring the survivor's closer and make the previously sweet and kind... nasty and evil.

The later in all cases is what has happened to my husbands family with the death of their sister. It was a suicide, a horrible tragic suicide, after many years of attempting to kill herself. We were told by her numerous MD's that if she were not hospitalized, she would eventually succeed. It was a matter of time.

I am now the villain after 3 months of cleaning out her house, shutting down utilities and taking care of everything except the funeral arrangements. The youngest sister has decided I am evil incarnate and I have had all that I can take.

I let it go because I knew she was grieving but enough is enough. She is know acting like a 5 year old child and I have had it.

I have written her and her sister a letter telling both of them to get over whatever is bothering them, get some counseling for their guilt (they didn't like the fact that their sister was gay) and they were very outspoken about it.... of course, that is the Christian thing to do. Make your already suicidal sibling feel like shit because of who and what she is.

So please, stay close to your family especially in times of sorrow. Be kind to the in-laws that are doing all the dirty work you don't want to do. If you do happen to have something to say, please say it to their face, don't play little school games and go home and call all the family members and tell them what a shitty bitch so and so is because the story will get back to that person and of course it will be all screwed up. Remember high school???

Be adult, this is hard for everyone, in-laws included. Pull together and love one another.